Christian Marriage Counselor in Redlands / Yucaipa

Couples today are facing unique challenges in their relationships

The family today has never been under so much pressure. Couples are over committed and over busy; they are feeling over exhausted, over worked, over stressed, and absolutely overwhelmed. Taking the time to pour into each other and our relationships is vital.

Relationships are complex and require work and regular maintenance.

In other words, great marriages don’t just happen by default. On top of the day-to-day stresses, we all face, when life throws us major curves as it has in the past year or so, we really see where we need extra help and support. Unfortunately, very few of us were given the needed tools these complex relationships require. Marriage counseling can definitely help in building the tools needed for a great relationship.

Family of origin issues will impact our current day relationships.

If you grew up in a home where you saw patient, love, and a balance of give-and-take as differences were worked out between family members when difficulties arose, you are fortunate indeed. For many of us, however, that simply wasn’t the case.

For example, how did you see conflict resolved in your home when you were growing up? While all couples disagree on matters relating to finances, child rearing, careers, and a host of other issues, not all can navigate these issues smoothly when conflicts arise.

Research shows that the majority of couples who seek out counseling and gain these needed tools say that it does indeed improve the relationship.

Some of the most common reasons couples come to counseling:

  • We feel like our lives have gotten out of control and need some support
  • We need help communicating more effectively
  • We fight too much and need help resolving conflict more quickly
  • We have grown apart and lack intimacy and closeness
  • We clash about too many things, from money to priorities to parenting style differences
  • My partner is addicted to porn and I don’t know how to help or deal with that

What about infidelity? Is it possible to recover from that?

When both partners are willing to put in the work, affair recovery is absolutely possible! Healing can happen and trust can be restored. This process takes commitment and hard work. It takes understanding how your marriage became vulnerable and why – so that it can become stronger and even better than ever before. I have worked with many, many couples in helping to restore their marriages after an affair. I believe the first step is providing a safe place for both partners to come and find help and healing and it would be my honor to come alongside you both in this very difficult time.